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Situations arise that we feel we don’t have control over.  Sometimes it is positive, but most of the time it is the negative experiences that gets us flustered and responding poorly.   It is these experiences that are the building blocks of our lives that we filter today’s issues through.  Our interactions with others, our body images, our thoughts, our feelings our ______________, you fill in the blank.  Everything goes through our past whether we like it or not.   The question is how do we change these perceptions and judgments for a more positive understanding? 

            This question creates the answer we all look for from a counseling perspective, why do I do what I do and what can I do to change?  The process while it sounds relatively simple borders on the complex.   What do we need to change within our selves to ...

When I was 23, I had an exceptionally difficult year.  If you want to know more about what happened, come talk to me… but suffice it to say I was in rough shape, mentally and emotionally.  I recently came across some writing (in the form of secret blog posts!) from that year, and it was so crazy to look back on some of the things I was thinking and feeling.  I learned a few things about enduring suffering from revisiting my younger self and wanted to share those things with all of you.

1. Feel your feelings — These blog posts are dripping with emotion, to a point that is almost embarrassing (one delicious phrase: “look me in the eye and see the despair in my soul.”).  I truly believe that if I didn’t have an outlet to express what I was feeling, those emotions would have exploded in much ...
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Almost everyone has heard of self-esteem. It’s fortunately being talked about more frequently within society. However, another concept about the self that needs to be addressed along with self-esteem, is self-compassion. Dr. Kristin Neff describes self-compassion as “being warm and understanding towards ourselves when we suffer, fail, or feel inadequate rather than ignoring our pain”(http://self-compassion.org). Self-compassion is the idea that just as we offer kindness and compassion to others when they fall short, we offer the same to ourselves. Why does it tend to be so much easier to offer compassion to others and not ourselves?

We are not perfect. No matter how hard we try, we will never be perfect. Self-compassion meets us in our imperfection. It allows us to say, “I messed up but I still have value and am still important”. When we s ...