Category: Control

What's On Your Mind?

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Turning off endless thoughts and rumination can be a difficult task for many people (in fact, 6.8 million people across the US).  So, it should not be shocking that we all may experience similar instances, or even times of day when we find it difficult to turn off the worry.  Some people may experience anxiety in the morning, throughout the day, or all-times revolving around sleep.  Have you ever been abruptly woken up from a deep sleep trying to figure out the world’s problems—many of us have! Or, are you the jealous type who envies your spouse for catching ZZZ’s moments after hitting their pillow—meanwhile, you are left alone with your thoughts for hours on end?! The thoughts can be endless, and thoughts do not necessarily have to be distressing in nature to be, well, distressing. 


Humans have the ability to think and think and think, without ever really finding the end of the thought—we simply ruminat ...

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  • Anxiety
  • Control
  • Coping
  • Depression
  • Emotions
  • Exhaustion
  • Mindset
  • Presence
  • Processing
  • Rest
  • Stress
  • Struggle
  • Trauma
  • uncertainty
  • weariness

Tags:

  • Control
  • Emotions
  • Sleep
  • anxiety
  • anxious
  • balance
  • coping
  • crisis
  • depression
  • distracting
  • focus
  • rest
  • stress
  • think
  • uncertainty

The Most Undermet Emotional Needs

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For years I often heard people say that you have to go through grief and pain, you can’t go around it, you can’t go above it, you have to go through it. For years I didn’t understand what that meant. We live in an incredibly emotionally avoidant culture which then leads to chronic mental emotional health struggles, high addiction and disconnection from self and others among other symptoms. 

In order to move through grief or pain a person must create a safe space for emotions to build. Like a wave on a beach, emotions need to be able to build and crash safely on the shore before they can recede out and become calm again. Instead of allowing the natural flow, we often dam up the water as high as we can to keep it from crashing, but then when it inevitably breaks the dam, and the lifetime of suppressed emotions can come cascading and flooding ...

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  • Change
  • Communication
  • Control
  • Coping
  • Decisions
  • Effort
  • Emotions
  • Empathy
  • Goals
  • Grief
  • Mindset
  • Positivity
  • Presence
  • Processing
  • Tragedy
  • compassion

Tags:

  • Communication
  • Emotions
  • acceptance
  • anxiety
  • change
  • compassion
  • coping
  • courage
  • emotional intelligence
  • feelings
  • grief
  • growth
  • self-compassion

Values-Based Motherhood

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There are very few roles in the world with the expectation to be and do it all, quite like the role of a mother. There are also many contradicting messages about what exactly all of the IT we are meant to be doing is. So often, instead of challenging this ridiculous expectation, mothers succumb to the overwhelm of it all and just end up feeling like failures. The reality is, when you are expected to be and do it all, and you push yourself to achieve it, you are never really going to be doing any of it particularly well. How could you? This sets moms up for burnout in the one job you can not give up.


I recognize this phenomenon in every mom that sits across from me in therapy and I look upon their faces with so much empathy because years ago, that was me! What changed the game for my motherhood a few years ago, is that I came across the podcast, The Lazy Genius, and felt like this woman was throwing me a lifeline! She encouraged her listen ...

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Posted in:

  • Breathe
  • Control
  • Coping
  • Decisions
  • Effort
  • Emotions
  • Exhaustion
  • Failure
  • False self
  • Family
  • Goals
  • Mindset
  • Parenting
  • Practice
  • Relationships
  • Rest
  • Self-Care
  • Stress

Tags:

  • Confidence
  • Control
  • Emotions
  • Expectations
  • Hopes
  • Joy
  • Parenting
  • Women
  • acceptance
  • balance
  • boundaries
  • challenge
  • coping
  • focus
  • growth
  • intentional
  • parent
  • reflection
  • reframe
  • relationships
  • self-esteem

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