Tag: relationships

Values-Based Motherhood

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There are very few roles in the world with the expectation to be and do it all, quite like the role of a mother. There are also many contradicting messages about what exactly all of the IT we are meant to be doing is. So often, instead of challenging this ridiculous expectation, mothers succumb to the overwhelm of it all and just end up feeling like failures. The reality is, when you are expected to be and do it all, and you push yourself to achieve it, you are never really going to be doing any of it particularly well. How could you? This sets moms up for burnout in the one job you can not give up.


I recognize this phenomenon in every mom that sits across from me in therapy and I look upon their faces with so much empathy because years ago, that was me! What changed the game for my motherhood a few years ago, is that I came across the podcast, The Lazy Genius, and felt like this woman was throwing me a lifeline! She encouraged her listen ...

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  • Control
  • Coping
  • Decisions
  • Effort
  • Emotions
  • Exhaustion
  • Failure
  • False self
  • Family
  • Goals
  • Mindset
  • Parenting
  • Practice
  • Relationships
  • Rest
  • Self-Care
  • Stress

Tags:

  • Confidence
  • Control
  • Emotions
  • Expectations
  • Hopes
  • Joy
  • Parenting
  • Women
  • acceptance
  • balance
  • boundaries
  • challenge
  • coping
  • focus
  • growth
  • intentional
  • parent
  • reflection
  • reframe
  • relationships
  • self-esteem

Everything's Fine...

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“It’s fine.”  “Everything is fine.”  “I’m fine.”  Have you ever strung together these three sentences and thought to yourself, “shoot, I think I might not be fine”. 


About a year ago I was in a car accident that resulted in emergency surgery, a stay in the trauma center at the hospital, and a long recovery (in addition to other challenges). It was the most challenging and scary time in my life. I didn’t think that I was going to make it, and yet I would find myself telling my loved ones who came to visit me, “It’s fine.”  “Everything is fine.”  “I’m fine.” 


Why is it so hard to admit that sometimes we are not fine? It has taken me a while to figure out why I was so desperately pushing myself to be fine. Though I wanted those words to be true, what I wanted more than anything was for my loved ones to think and feel that those words were true.


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  • Breathe
  • Comfort
  • Communication
  • Coping
  • Emotions
  • Exhaustion
  • False self
  • Grief
  • Pain
  • Presence
  • Processing
  • Relationships

Tags:

  • Emotions
  • coping
  • emotons
  • feelings
  • friendships
  • grief
  • growth
  • intentional
  • relationships
  • trauma

Rebuilding Your Island

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Recently, I returned from an amazing honeymoon voyage to the Virgin Islands. As our ship docked, we were in breathtaking awe of the pristine clear blue waters and lush tropical hillsides. We were greeted by locals dressed in colorful costumes representing their indigenous culture and dancing to Caribbean music. Quaint shops lined the historic avenues and street vendors displayed their wares with cheerful enthusiasm. One could not help but be taken away on a warm breeze of excitement. Taxi drivers lined the avenues willing to take you on tours of their treasured island for this is the home of THE “Treasure Island” boasting the resting place of much famous pirate booty, ship wrecks, water wonders with many colorful species of coral (who knew “fire coral” is a thing); animals, military forts, historic landmarks, and much tropical horticulture.


Joining other eager tourists, we commandeered a taxi bound for the other side of the is ...

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  • Comfort
  • Decisions
  • Effort
  • Family
  • Presence
  • Processing
  • Relationships
  • Story
  • Tragedy
  • Trauma
  • Vulnerability
  • compassion

Tags:

  • Community
  • Confidence
  • Connection
  • change
  • coping
  • courage
  • friendships
  • growth
  • intentional
  • relationships
  • story
  • success
  • trauma
  • trust
  • vulnerable

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