Category: Control

Surrendering Control

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Over 10 years ago, I taped a prayer onto my kitchen cupboard where I would see it often. It was an extremely challenging time in my personal and family life. I felt anxious, stressed, burdened and grieved. I needed the daily (sometimes hourly) reminder that not everything was mine to worry about or control.

Perhaps you have heard of the Serenity Prayer. It is a prayer whose origins go far back into history. The first part of the prayer is used in many recovery groups. One version of the prayer was written by Reinhold Niebuhr.

“God grant me the Serenity to accept the things - I cannot change; Courage to change the things I can; and Wisdom to know the difference. Living one day at a time; Enjoying one moment at a time; Accepting hardship as the pathway to peace; Taking, as He did, this sinful world as it is, not as I would have it; Trusting that He will make all things right if I surrender to His will; That I may b ...

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  • Control
  • Prayer
  • Stress

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  • anxiety
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Struggling With Control?

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Can we agree that to live in a Disney movie would be wonderful? I mean, after all, the protagonists of the story always “live happily ever after” by the end of the story. Who wouldn’t want to live in a castle, be with the girl/guy of our dreams, and never have to worry about anything messing it up? Yes! This would be a great life! However, in reality, this is not case. Life is messy, hard and downright brutal at times which means that “happily ever after” is but a fantasy. Nonetheless, it is easy to desire the picturesque fairy tale instead of enduring through life’s messiness.

 

Since then, in order to live out this fairy tale, one may embark on the quest for control when uncomfortable thoughts or feelings arise. In fact, there are two major categorical ways in which we may behaviorally pursue to control any form of negativity or uncomfortable thoughts or feelings:

 

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  • Hiding
  • acceptance
  • arguing
  • distracting
  • fairytale
  • fantacy
  • reality
  • supressing
  • zone out

Seven Areas of Self-Care

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As the New Year rolls around, many of us are reflecting on the past year and considering what we want to focus on during this next trip around the sun.  As I’ve spoken with clients and thought about my own goals, the topic of holistic, well-rounded self-care has come up regularly.  Self-care is paying attention to and making good choices for your mind, body, soul, and spirit.  Without being aware of this, we risk falling into complacency, remaining stuck in unhealthy patterns, and hindering our ability to live the kind of story we want to experience.



As you think about what kind of life you want to live this year, it can be helpful to separate the areas of your life into different categories in order to properly assess and plan.  Here are seven common categories of self-car ...

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  • Change
  • Control
  • Mindfullness
  • Practice
  • Presence
  • Relationships
  • Self-Care
  • Story

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  • Emotions
  • Sleep
  • Spiritual
  • breathing
  • change
  • mindfullness
  • practice
  • reflection
  • relaxation
  • story

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