Category: Story

Time After Time

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This one’s for the lonely,

The one’s who seek and find,

Only to be let down,

Time after Time…

 

A friend of mine (let’s call him Brian for the duration of this post) recently shared with me a phenomenon, that he found not only in his personal journey toward self-actualization through his childhood trauma, but specifically in the context of his own therapy. He was actually made aware of this cognitive pattern in which he would consistently caveat his trauma disclosure with a vindication or defense of the perpetrator of his abuse. In his context, this was often his parents, and a stranger who had sexually assaulted him when he was five to six. 

This one’s for the torn down,

The experts at the fall,

Come on friends get up now,

You’re not alone at all

 

For context, Brian’s father was severely abusiv ...

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  • Story
  • Trauma

Tags:

  • William Ronald Dodds Fairbairn
  • abuse

Seven Areas of Self-Care

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As the New Year rolls around, many of us are reflecting on the past year and considering what we want to focus on during this next trip around the sun.  As I’ve spoken with clients and thought about my own goals, the topic of holistic, well-rounded self-care has come up regularly.  Self-care is paying attention to and making good choices for your mind, body, soul, and spirit.  Without being aware of this, we risk falling into complacency, remaining stuck in unhealthy patterns, and hindering our ability to live the kind of story we want to experience.



As you think about what kind of life you want to live this year, it can be helpful to separate the areas of your life into different categories in order to properly assess and plan.  Here are seven common categories of self-car ...

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Posted in:

  • Change
  • Control
  • Mindfullness
  • Practice
  • Presence
  • Relationships
  • Self-Care
  • Story

Tags:

  • Emotions
  • Sleep
  • Spiritual
  • breathing
  • change
  • mindfullness
  • practice
  • reflection
  • relaxation
  • story

How do I Know if I have the "Right" Therapist?

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For someone who’s never been in therapy, trying to find out what makes a good therapist can feel harder than finding a good doctor. After all, who wants to go into a room and strip one’s emotional clothing, not to mention spend money, on someone who isn’t going to be able to help you feel/get better?

            While there are many things to know about counseling, here are a couple tips in deciding on a therapist:

  1. What kind of work do you want to do?

Therapists tend to hold to different points of view on therapy and sometimes specialize. For example, many therapists hold to Cognitive Behavioral Theory—which basically operates off of the idea that change comes through working out core lies, and behaviors follow your thoughts. Other therapists hold to Psychodynamic Theory—which works out of the presupposition that “what’s wrong” is buried ...

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Posted in:

  • Change
  • Control
  • Mindfullness
  • Practice
  • Relationships
  • Self-Care
  • Story
  • compassion

Tags:

  • Emotions
  • change
  • mindfullness
  • story
  • welcome

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