Tag: acceptance

Values-Based Motherhood

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There are very few roles in the world with the expectation to be and do it all, quite like the role of a mother. There are also many contradicting messages about what exactly all of the IT we are meant to be doing is. So often, instead of challenging this ridiculous expectation, mothers succumb to the overwhelm of it all and just end up feeling like failures. The reality is, when you are expected to be and do it all, and you push yourself to achieve it, you are never really going to be doing any of it particularly well. How could you? This sets moms up for burnout in the one job you can not give up.


I recognize this phenomenon in every mom that sits across from me in therapy and I look upon their faces with so much empathy because years ago, that was me! What changed the game for my motherhood a few years ago, is that I came across the podcast, The Lazy Genius, and felt like this woman was throwing me a lifeline! She encouraged her listen ...

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  • Breathe
  • Control
  • Coping
  • Decisions
  • Effort
  • Emotions
  • Exhaustion
  • Failure
  • False self
  • Family
  • Goals
  • Mindset
  • Parenting
  • Practice
  • Relationships
  • Rest
  • Self-Care
  • Stress

Tags:

  • Confidence
  • Control
  • Emotions
  • Expectations
  • Hopes
  • Joy
  • Parenting
  • Women
  • acceptance
  • balance
  • boundaries
  • challenge
  • coping
  • focus
  • growth
  • intentional
  • parent
  • reflection
  • reframe
  • relationships
  • self-esteem

Control

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If you are anything like me, and probably just about every other person in the world, you probably enjoy having things go your way. It is nice to see things go the way they are supposed to, to see your efforts be rewarded with a satisfying outcome, to have others understand you and think the best of you. If life always worked out this perfectly, well… I don’t know if we could call it life, but it sounds like it would be nice! 


Whether we are consciously thinking about these things or not, if we take an honest look at ourselves we often operate from this way of thinking. We are motivated for things to go our way and feel good, and even when our motives seem altruistic there is almost always something we are getting from the specific outcome. It might sound like a pessimistic way of seeing things but when we boil it down, we realize that we desperately want to be in control, and we will find ways to exert our will on people ...

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  • Control
  • Mindset
  • Relationships

Tags:

  • Control
  • Expectations
  • acceptance
  • attitude
  • growth
  • relationships

What's Your Relationship Status?

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With warm weather comes the invitation and at times, even necessitates, cooler clothing that inevitably shows more skin than would be seen in cooler weather. Out come the shorts, sandals, sleeveless shirts, dresses and swimwear. Adjusting our apparel for the weather can produce many feelings - from confidence and contentment to feelings of shame, embarrassment, contempt or even jealousy. These feelings point towards a story, embodied from our head to our toes, of what we should think, interact, feel, judge and name our bodies. This, in turn, shapes our relationship with our body. And this relationship is under constant assault, internally or externally.

 

The assault on our bodies ranges from an uncomfortable or judgmental side glance we notice from someone, a comment relegating our worth as greater or lesser depending on our size, or being ignored or minimized for failing to present in a particular way. Some of us h ...

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Posted in:

  • Body Image

Tags:

  • acceptance
  • body care
  • judgement

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